I found myself triggered by the words as my friend walked out the door. Vacation! Does everyone think I just go on vacation all the time? Don’t they know how much I’m working to build a new practice and write a book?
Pesky Triggers!
Strong emotional reactions, sometimes called triggers, to anything in the outside world is often a reflection to the crap we are sensitive to because of our own subconscious beliefs or values. They can be a great (and sometimes painful) pointer to the unhealed parts of us.
I’m not…
I reacted because somewhere my ego wanted me to remember or feel I’m not working hard enough, I’m not successful enough, and I’m not doing enough. I “should” do more. It also has to do with my perception of how people interpret my lifestyle.
Being a Digital Nomad vs. Taking a Vacation
The innocuous ‘vacation’ statement and genuine expression of love and caring would not have been emotionally reactive for me had I healed some past judgments. When I tell people I’m a part-time digital nomad, they react differently than when I say I’m working from my truck and campgrounds across the US.
Some people react as if I must be destitute to be living out of my old truck and boondocking. Others think it’s the coolest thing ever. I’m doing the same thing- it’s THEIR perception of my experience. Although I do want to maintain a certain professional image, I also have to remember that they are viewing my life through their own filters, and if I’m upset by the way they view me— that’s the issue I need to address within myself.
Healing My Own Baggage
I did some Emotional Freedom Techniques tapping and healing work around my own patterns and beliefs around how hard I have to work and what it had to look like. Then came a powerful moment of clarity.
Every Day Can Be Like Vacation | Do What You Love and Don’t Work a Day…
I CAN treat every day like it was vacation. Not in a way that I ignore work or lay on the beach with margaritas or turn off my phone (even when I want to). I can choose to face every day with excitement and dedication to live and do the things I want to do. To be curious about how to make it more powerful for myself. Not that I ignore or avoid the challenges, but that I meet them also with openness, patience, and curiosity.
Take a Break!
It’s healthy to use more time practicing yoga and walking on a trail. When I’m traveling I sometimes work on my computer all day from the seat of my truck and watch the sun move from one side of the sky to another; finishing just in time to realize that my dreams of hiking for the day are gone with the light. It’s too dark to wander into the unknown wilderness
Live Every Day as If It’s Your Last
What if we all enjoyed daily life? You hear tropes like ‘live every day like it’s your last,’ ‘take time to breathe,’ and ‘do what you love,’ but do we do that? Do you unhook the emotional reactions and belief systems to freely, confidently, and without guilt choose that kind of life? I slowed down when I was in Europe. The American lifestyle has shifted me into a hectic pace.
Make The Choice
My choice is made. I choose to continue working hard, to doing what I love, to writing my books. But I also choose to come at it with an attitude as if I’m on vacation and enjoying every moment of it. After all, it’s not about what you do, it’s about how you perceive it.
Need Help Slowing Down?
EFT Tapping is great for all the emotional reactions that arise when you even consider changing your lifestyle. Contact me if you would like some support!
Are you already feeling stressed, overwhelmed, nervous, anxious, or sad thinking about the family get-togethers? Do you spend time thinking about the time you are supposed to spend (or not spend) with family? Is there conflict, expectations, and unwritten rules about how you need to engage with others?
Perhaps your stress is caused by the loss of a family member or the feeling you are not really included in the family unit. Perhaps you struggle about visiting (or not) extended family or in-laws. You have to consider a variety of aspects including: schedules, holiday child-custody, religious obligations, gift-giving, political conflicts, and health concerns.
In this four-week course you will learn how to:
Explore the source of the exact mechanisms that create stress for you (these are probably different and deeper than you think!)
Learn quick and easy techniques to neutralize emotional situations for yourself (even before they happen!)
Gain confidence and clarity around family dynamics and the role you play
Soothe the past hurts caused by family
Release a variety of feelings including overwhelm, anger, overwhelm, self-doubt, and anxiousness as they happen.
Overcome grief and loss when you feel “not part of” the family unit or acutely feel the loss of a member who has left.
These classes were recorded in November and December and have some emphasis on how to navigate family during the holidays. However, these classes not only apply year round, but the ideas and applications can be applied to any relationship or interpersonal stressors in your life, whether at work, with friends, or in your partnership.
Office Hours & Other Support
As part of this class, you have access to office hours with Dawn. What does that mean? About twice a month, Dawn will be online via zoom in a public format to answer questions for any of her program or class participants (this means you!) This is not a private session, and not a place for you to divulge confidential information, but instead is an opportunity for you to join a community over zoom, learn from other participant’s questions about EFT and tapping, as well as to ask your own questions. Sometimes there will be multiple people online, sometimes there will be only you. No appointment is necessary, and you don’t have to stay for the whole session (or join right on time.)
You can get help with Setup Statements, ask questions about a topic in class, get support if an issue feels too overwhelming or isn’t seeming to resolve, and so on. Bring any question that pops up about Emotional freedom techniques. You can access the calendar Here. To make sure Dawn gets through all questions, she may limit the time she spends with each individual. Be patient and curious, and she will get to your questions as fast as possible. The calendar is also visible at the bottom of this class page. Make sure it is showing in your time zone.
Class 1 Video
In class one you learn how to use the powerful tool of Emotional Freedom Techniques tapping. You learn how to structure and do tapping for yourself, and get to practice with a quick tap along. I ask you to start working with future potential events that could create stress for you and/or your family system.
Class 1 Audio
Class 2 Video
In class 2 we explore family roles and how they can be shifted by using Emotional Freedom Techniques tapping. We discuss cycles of belief and results, as well as how to navigate family expectations and obligations with grace and strength.
Class 2 Audio
Class 3 Video
In this EFT for Family Stress Class, we look at what OUR triggers, sensitivities, and beliefs are. How does what we learned before age 7 influence how we react to others? Can we also step back and have compassion and empathy for why others are acting the way they are? This class allows us to uncover what prevents us from having choice and calm in our reactions to others.
Class 3 Audio
Class 4 Video
In Class 4 we explore coping with change as well as the emotions of grief, loss, and loneliness. Grief comes from many life changes including death, relationship breaks, tradition changes, and being isolated.
Class Overview: Cravings, compulsions, and overeating can come from many sources. Some of us eat for protection and safety. Some of us eat or drink certain things because they remind us of loved ones or happy times in our lives.
Sometimes we eat because we are bored, scared, avoiding something else, or because we were taught not to let food go to waste. In this 4-week class, you will explore the emotions that prevent you from being able to make choices around your eating and drinking habits (or technology and other compulsions.) You will explore the emotions that your beloved foods contain or replace.
You will learn how to use Emotional Freedom Techniques aka EFT Tapping when you find yourself craving sugar, chocolate, alcohol, or whatever vice you have. We will also explore how to regain a sense of well-being in our own bodies. After all, stress can impact our hormonal systems and create a sense of need for foods and drinks that make us feel better. Our brains can trick us into thinking we need to eat more to be satiated, to be safe, or to feel love. All of this can be shifted using EFT tapping.
Class 1
In the first class we explore working with one particular food to reduce cravings. Make sure you have an item (food, drink, technology, etc) you crave or are compulsive about.
Your Homework for next week: –Tap using the craving procedure on your own item daily for at least three days –Start tapping every time you think of or encounter the item, using either technique –Notice beliefs, fears, emotions, memories, etc. that come up around your craving + write them down for later –If you do indulge, allow yourself to have self-acceptance and really sink into the experience.
In the second class we address our internal authority figure, who affects our ability to stick with the healthier choices we want for ourselves. The part of ourselves that says “you can’t make me!”
We also discuss the question: What if I don’t want my craving to go away because I love it so much? We start with a 20-minute presentation from Beth Schupanitz from Inspiring Health Solutions who gives additional options to break sugar cravings. Beth Schupanitz is a Registered Nutrition Consultant and Nutrition Response Testing Practitioner specializing in lifelong weight loss, balanced eating to control blood sugars, through customized meal planning, supplementation, exercise protocols and stress management.
In this class we explore the key blockers to weight loss. What are the beliefs, ideas, or circumstances that may be preventing you from changing your habits?
Class 4
We will review our first three weeks, answer questions, and get even deeper in to the knowledge you have already gained about Cravings and EFT tapping.
Class Overview: Winter + Covid + isolation + life changes are creating loneliness, stress, fear. Many identify having feelings of depression, anxiety, or hopelessness. Many use alcohol, food, or the internet to try to suppress these feelings. You will learn to do basic tapping for yourself and your loved ones on your own in the safety of your home or workplace.
Not only is tapping (a.k.a. Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT) helpful for loneliness, but these basic techniques can be applied to all emotional and stressful areas of your life.
Class 1
This class is the first of four, where we will learn the basics and techniques of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT tapping.)
This is the second class, in which we discuss resourcing, tracing our emotions back through time, and have a demo who shares her experience with illness.
Class 2
Class 3
We talk about Secondary Gains of staying stuck, subconscious and limiting beliefs, and how what we learn or observe from childhood can inform how we feel now. Our demo works with feelings of isolation during the pandemic.
Class 3
Class 4
In this class we discuss how to use EFT to release the blocks to achieving and believing our affirmations and goals. We discuss how to work with sensations of pain, as well as how to bring EFT Tapping into a larger scope in your life through a Personal Peace Procedure.
Class Overview: In this 4-week class, you will explore the emotions and situations that prevent you from having the level of connection, communication, and felt-trust you want with friends and family members. You will also learn how to release emotions that become heightened when you think about past relationship situations. We will also explore how to regain a sense of intimacy in personal relationships. After all, stress can impact our hormonal systems and create a sense of disconnection, even when we still honor and respect our partner. Intimacy can be physical, emotional, spiritual, and intellectual, and each piece can be addressed and healed using EFT tapping.
Not only is tapping (a.k.a. Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT) helpful for creating powerful connections and relationships, but these basic techniques can be applied to all emotional and stressful areas of your life.
Class 1
In Class 1 we learn to do EFT Tapping and how to apply it to everyday life. Relationships are great, but can involve communication challenges, disagreements, and fluctuations in connection.
Whether your relationship struggle is with family, your partner, or a coworker, Dawn will teach you to heal it using EFT tapping.The first one is where we will learn the basics and techniques of Emotional Freedom Techniques (tapping.) The rest are sessions in which we will enhance our skills and get confidence using the technique. Not only is tapping (a.k.a. Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT) helpful for creating powerful connections and relationships, but these basic techniques can be applied to all emotional and stressful areas of your life.
We start Class 2 reviewing how to use tapping in your everyday life. We talk about Family and Friend relationships–what have we learned as children? How have our experiences formed us? What resources do we have, beyond EFT tapping, to keep ourselves regulated and stable when we encounter life’s struggles? Thank you to our demo, Chris, who shares a family struggle he is currently experiencing.
Class 3
In this class we go even deeper, talking about secondary gains (why you might not be able to clear an event) and beliefs that are deeper causes of the emotional charges and sensitivities in your life.
Class 4
In this class we discuss the loop of belief-attitude-behavior-result and how EFT Tapping can break that. I ask you to look at your marriage/ partnerships and beliefs on what a relationship should or could look like. I teach how to do affirmations and find the subconscious blocks under them. We end with a personal peace procedure and the offers for the next steps for your power.
All prices are in US dollars and include state and local taxes where applicable. Packages and Discounts are also available for services. Talk to Dawn for details.
**Please note all missed appointments or those cancelled within 24 hours are billed at my full rate. Payment is required before appointment for all services.**
Health & Healing Strategy Session
($0/20-30 minutes)
Life can be stressful at times physically, mentally, and emotionally. During this session we talk briefly about what you are looking to achieve, and see if the services I offer are a good fit for you. If so, we set a few targets/goals to measure your healing progress and to make sure we stay on track.
I have over 20 years of experience working in the healing profession, and use tools and a combination of services such as homeopathy, Bach flower essences, Emotional Freedom Techniques EFT (tapping), and subconscious belief work such as PSYCH-K® to help you get unstuck and reclaim health and happiness. In this session we will talk in-depth about what your concerns are, and explore what tools, services, and resources will be beneficial for you to help you move forward in life!
The challenge I see for individuals in relationships is twofold. First, we are not taught to prioritize ourselves or our significant other after the initial dating stages. Or, if we were, we battle the balance between our relationship and other obligations. We often ignore our own needs and don’t participate in self-care, which also has a negative impact on not only our relationship, but our partner, our health, and thus our happiness. Second, we are not taught to observe what gives us pleasure, what our wants and needs are in a relationship, and how to clearly communicate in an open and loving way with those we care for. We are often left dissatisfied, overworked, unhealthy, and disconnected. I can help you transform that so you can have the joy, connection, and intimacy you desire-even if you don’t know that’s what you want yet!
Intimacy means more than sex. Intimacy has other facets such as emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. It means being present in our bodies. It means feeling connection even when no words are being spoken, no touch being exchanged. Intimacy isn’t only for your partner-style relationships. You can create emotional intimacy with friends, family, and community. As mammals, we all want to belong, to feel connected, to have value and meaning.
Why am I different than other coaches? We don’t just focus on the “now.” Together, we set the goals that YOU want to achieve in your personal relationships with family, friends, and/or significant others. I help you clear emotions so you can experience joy. I’m trauma-informed and can help you neutralize situations that impact your confidence, your communication, your relationship with your body, your potential for joy. We clear the past, we celebrate the now, and we move towards a better future together.
Are you experiencing high levels of emotional stress? When you think about a situation from the past, do you feel anger, grief, or sadness? Are you concerned about the future and find your mind wandering to the “what ifs”? If so, this technique is for you.
What is EFT Tapping?
Emotional Freedom Techniques (a.k.a. tapping) is a group of techniques scientifically-proven to help neutralize emotions and decrease stress hormones in the body by tapping on specific acupressure points while focusing on your personal situations. It creates a sense of calm so you can approach situations with clarity, confidence, and personal choice. Once you learn this tool, you can also do your own work in everyday situations if you choose, empowering yourself to move through turmoil and emotional upheaval and embrace happiness and grounded presence.
Please note: My in-office schedules often change due to my schedule. If you are having a challenge finding an appointment time that fits, please call Dawn at 651-401-6131
Schedule your CranioSacral and other bodywork appointments at 316 Bush Street, Red Wing MN
This light yet powerful work helps release restrictions in the soft tissues of the brain and spinal cord, as well as the related tissues. It also works with emotions and memories patterned into the body and nervous system, and helps them gently release.
I
often use tools such as dialoguing work to help you access the deeper knowledge
of the body so you can find clarity and heal. I was trained through the
Upledger Institute, and have found this work to help people recover from a
variety of discomforts, including muscular restrictions, feelings of being
“stuck” or “tight” in the body, as well as emotional stress. There are currently
studies being done on the effectiveness of helping recovery from a variety of
injuries.
For an explanation of CranioSacral directly from the founder, click HERE . This site also has articles on research on CST.
Visceral Manipulation Services
Massage that releases organs and scar tissue
($150/60 minutes, $195/90 minutes)
The quality of your organ movement influences how the rest of your body moves and feels.
Organs can get stuck together and restricted the same way that muscles can get knotted up and tight! I begin the session by listening closely to where the body is wrapping itself around physical or emotional restrictions in the abdomen and pelvis. I then use a series of gentle techniques to release the stuck areas and help return the organs to balance and function. Often people experience relief of symptoms that they thought were related to muscles, their back, or an undiagnosed disease.
This gentle yet powerful hands-on service involves working with the client’s body in many different positions, including seated, sidelying, and face-up on the massage table. I strongly recommend wearing comfortable shorts or pants that can be pulled down to the pubic bone. Women, please wear a sports bra or something similar.
HERE you can find an overview on visceral work, as well as the Ricky Williams Concussion Program, and how they are measuring physical and emotional changes in formerly concussed athletes using a combination of CST & Visceral on sports athletes.
Multi-Modal Bodywork Services
($150/60 minutes, $195/90 minutes)
This
type of “massage” uses the most intuition and follows your body’s internal
signals the most closely. It combines
all of my knowledge, training, and skills I have been gaining since my first
alternative medicine class in 1995. We
allow the body to guide the session.
Not all massage is the same
If you are not attaining the progress you seek from traditional massage therapy, there may be more at work than you realize. Firstly, emotions and cellular memory can create restrictions in your body. Secondly, emotions and cell memory can create discomfort in your organs and muscle tissues. Thirdly, emotions are stored in the body tissues.
The work I do on the massage table goes far beyond traditional Swedish massage. I listen from the top of your head to feel where the body is holding onto stress in gravity. Next, I apply a combination of massage techniques designed to release adhesions, restrictions, or points of stress throughout your body.
I use a variety of techniques, allowing me to be very flexible with pressure while adapting to your requests, which allows me to customize each session specifically. Often the most powerful sessions for clients are usually ones in which we let the body determine what kind of work it needs that day.
I Help People Increase Intimacy
My passion is to help individuals deepen levels of connection and trust in personal and social relationships with consensual touch and to find more intimacy in their personal lives through emotional healing.
Emotional Struggles Can Resolve
If you are struggling emotionally from situations such as work drama, financial fears, cravings, phobias, personal or professional relationships, your own self-confidence and worth, or intimacy issues—I can help. Schedule your free Health & Healing Strategy Session to learn how.
Find Your Soulmate
I am taking advanced EFT tapping training to help you find your soulmate. It is possible. I know an 82-year old who found hers with this work. First, we work with healing your emotions in past relationships. Second, I help you identify your key characteristics for a soulmate. Third, we work with the part of the ego that says it is not possible. Schedule your free Health & Healing Strategy Session to learn how.
No matter how hard I try to take pictures that capture the beauty and energy of my travels, and no matter how beautiful the area, I can’t seem to do it. Pictures don’t pick up on the subtle nuances, the play of colors, the reflections of light… unless you have an amazing camera at the perfect time of the day and at the perfect angle. Even then, the soul of the space can be elusive.
Cornwall, England
Red Rock Canyon, Nevada USA
Glacial Stream, Iceland
It’s the Same In Relationships
The emotions and beliefs that drive each of us are so subtle, so nuanced, and so under-the-surface that one can be experiencing reactions and emotions for seemingly no reason. For example, I mentioned in a social media post February 18th about a conversation I overheard at a campfire that reminded me of a time in my life I used to question really little things my partner was doing.
Why Am I Questioning?
“Are you sure you added enough seasoning?” “Is it time to check the steak on the grill?” “Don’t you think that adding the garlic now will make it burn?”
I Thought I was Being Curious and Helpful
I did not realize what I was doing at the time, even after I had a partner call me out on it. “Why are you always questioning what I’m doing?” he asked. I told him I was just trying to learn. Which, in a way, I was.
I was aware enough at the time to know that I didn’t get why people were doing things different, and that there may be ‘better’ ways to do something than what I had learned.
The True Picture
Underlying the questioning was a subtle worry and anxiety nagging me that it “wasn’t the right way” or that something would get wrecked or the flavors wouldn’t be as great. It may be good that way, but wouldn’t it be better if it was done this way?
Looking back I think, does it really even matter?
The Great Chili Experiment
I made chili for one of my parties and a chef that attended commented, “You toasted the spices first, didn’t you?” I was stunned he could taste the difference. He tole me he was impressed. I didn’t toast spices for the chef; I did it to be fun and to see if I could tell the difference. Yet on some other days when my partner made dinner I would hover, thinking it wouldn’t be as good if he didn’t do (insert whatever action I was anxious about that day.)
What Drives You (That Drives Others Nuts?)
So what drives you in a relationship (familial, friend, professional, or intimate) that causes disharmony? Picture the last time you were anxious or upset about something little. What creates that little bit of dis-ease inside your body or brain? What are you are personally sensitive to about what your partner is doing, and where may that come from? Often what we are sensitive to in others reflects our own insecurities, belief systems, or judgements within our selves.
The Emotional Disharmony Can Clear
Using EFT Tapping to remove those worries, habits, or beliefs will not take away your personality or prevent you from speaking your truth. It’s like wiping the fingerprints off your camera lens so your picture is crystal clear. It is healthy and important to feel all of your emotions. It’s good for each of us to be challenged, to question others, to learn from observation and experience, and to have differences of opinion. But it’s also empowering to slow down, be patient, and observe.
Are Your Emotions Bringing You Closer to Happiness?
However, if you find yourself interfering, judging, jealous, irritated, or critical instead of curious, open, playful, and accepting with those you care about or must work with, I can help you. Picture your ideal level of communication in a relationship. EFT can help you navigate feelings that may be lying under the surface. You can step into your highest and most honest level of communication in a way that serves both you and the person you are communicating with.
Sex. The word alone brings up different images, ideas, and belief systems for everyone. Perhaps you are singing a George Michael song in your head now.
Or maybe you are thinking about playfulness, connection, and love. Others are thinking of embarrassment, shame, religion, trauma, or manipulation. Sex can be equated with power or equality, connection or separation.
Perhaps you have images of lengthy, slow, explorative, sensual, erotic tantric sessions or lively, exciting, powerful, sweaty, screaming, vigorous experiences. Awkward first explorations or easy synergistic rhythms born from familiarity.
Lust or love. Any combination of any of the above. The list goes on and on.
I have EFT clients who WANT to want sex with their partner. Yet something stands in the way. The lack of sex is blamed on stress. Schedules. Kids. Lack of desire/ hormones. Body image challenges. (Am I really desirable? I have x, y, or z wrong with my body. If my partner desires me… they must be crazy!) Feelings of duty, anger, frustration, disconnection, shame, or memories of trauma haunt the bedroom.
Emotional Freedom Techniques (a.k.a. EFT or Tapping) Can Help You Desire AND Enjoy Sex!
Most sexual dysfunction has an emotional root. Even when lack of desire, lack of orgasm, premature ejaculation, or body response challenges seem hormonal or physically related, clearing emotions, trauma, shame, guilt, fear, and/or belief systems can restore optimal sexual drive, and performance. EFT can restore your enjoyment–or allow you to find it if you haven’t before!
Your Bedroom is Your Business
It doesn’t matter what you want your sex life to look like. Heck, maybe all you want is healthy touch and an opportunity to cuddle. Perhaps a connection needs to be built or rebuilt before sex is even on the table. Maybe you are trying to learn your own body through masturbation and are still having challenges. Healing so you can find satisfaction, whether with self or other, is all possible with EFT.
Let’s Have an Honest Chat
Some people are still trying to figure out their own body and what they want (and don’t) in the bedroom. Maybe what you want is the courage to talk to your partner about curiosities, explorations, deeper desires or fantasies. Perhaps you just want the courage and words to gently educate another on what you like.
All of This is Possible with EFT
I can help you. Whether you want to work as an individual or a couple, book a strategy session and see if EFT Tapping is a good fit for you. If it feels more comfortable, start with a class. I’ve helped others through this, and I would love to help you too.
With love,
Dawn
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When’s the last time you were in an emotional funk? Looking at past situations that still make us emotional–angry, sad, frustrated, scared, etc–can be liberating. Avoiding healing can put us into a temporary funk until we choose to get rid of the old and embrace the new.
Always more self to explore
No matter how much work I do on myself and clearing old patterns, beliefs, and messages, it seems there is always a way to explore more deeply. It’s really rewarding!
Take for example, family relationships. I come from an amazing supportive family, but I still created beliefs of I’m not good enough and I have to work hard to be loved when I was a child. Emotional Freedom Techniques (a.k.a EFT or tapping), homeopathy, and the Hoffman Process have all been instrumental in changing that.
Family challenges
Some people aren’t as lucky. I have many women come for EFT tapping with a history of abuse, physical or emotional abandonment, and/or neglect. These powerful, strong women learn to move through their past and embrace their power, strength, and joy. Whereas holidays used to be torturous, they are now peaceful.
For some, death has separated family and created unexpected loneliness and grief. Others avoid family at all costs. Many choose their own family.
Family patterns influence relationships
We develop most of our beliefs before the age of five or six (or seven or eight, depending on what aspect of the brain we are discussing.) Our subconscious minds are programmed through identifying positive and negative things and then creating associations and emotions for each. For example, we absorb and mimic our parents and caretakers. Second, we have our own experience of how we are treated and cared for. We observe the world with different brain waves and an inability to use logic. What we are immersed in and exposed to informs what and who we become.
Our beliefs sneak in unwittingly
You have to work hard to be successful. I’m not good enough. Money doesn’t grow on trees. That’s stupid=I’m stupid. You are too old to act like that. Children should be seen and not heard. Others are more important than me. I am always wrong. People only want me for sex. Men should act like x. Women should act like y. Boys don’t cry. Women are weak. Poor people are/rich people are z. I need to act like or be __ to be loved.
These beliefs are insidious and sneaky. They define how you interact with relationships, money, society, food and alcohol, and yourself.
It can seem overwhelming
I’ve been doing healing work with myself and practitioners for 20 years. I’ve learned where my triggers are, why they are happening, and how to communicate clearly. Empathy has become easier. When others are hiding or reacting out of fear I can usually feel that. People have different views because of these beliefs. Individuals are often suffering inside, trying to find joy and happiness when these beliefs are telling them that they don’t GET to be happy.
Happiness and joy
My process of becoming joyful was not always fun. Finding joy does not mean I become perfectly neutral and never experience anger. That is an interesting concept some people, especially those wanting to travel a path towards enlightenment, seem to think is ideal. There is a wheel of emotions, and health to me means being able to access any of them.
Emotional health
In my opinion, the marker of emotional health is the ability to see a situation for what it is and how it makes you feel so you can respond to it and move through it. Denying emotion or pretending you are a positive person thus cannot (or should not) feel anger can be extremely damaging.
For example, I have a friend who used to say he never got angry. What he has realized over time is that he suppresses anger because he learned that anger=violence. So for self-preservation, he made a conscious choice to never feel anger.
Instead, those emotions were stored in his body. Those emotions created physical symptoms.
Now–was that function beneficial and helpful to him over parts of his life? Absolutely. Was it his best expression of health possible at the time? For sure. Can he (and you) learn to regulate emotions without suppressing them? Of course. Emotional Freedom Techniques is one of many ways you can learn to do that. (Here’s a 13 or 30-minute video if you want to see the science.)
Become your best self
What does that mean? My best self is aware, awake, and happy. It means I make choices from clarity and confidence instead of reactivity and fear. Talk to me if you want to hear more. Or, join one of my classes on Eventbrite.
Free Tapping Class for Loneliness
I am holding a free 4-week class on tapping for loneliness. You will learn to tap for yourself, AND how to apply these principles for all stresses in your life. Plus, the class is recorded so you can watch it anytime + go back to them. Contact me via Direct message, email, or text, and I will let you know when the final dates are scheduled..
Relationships are HARD Right Now, and They Don’t Have to Be!
That’s right. They don’t have to be! Did you know that most of what irritates you, frustrates you, or creates loneliness, separation, or a feeling of “is this all there is?” often comes from a past emotional experience or belief system? By working together, we can find the source of your relationship struggles and work through them.
You can have better, stronger, and more fulfilling relationships. You can feel joy, love, connection, and belonging – even when your past history has taught you that is not possible and/or is unsafe.
Whether you choose to work with your current personal relationship/ marriage/ partnership, a friendship gone awry, or a family member that pushes all of your buttons, you will notice that focusing on one area of your relationship struggles will create subtle and positive shifts in all of them.
Would you like to chat for 30 minutes via phone or zoom?
Discover Playfulness and Joy (In and Out of Relationships)
It’s SO easy to get caught up in life; to create business, to put others before ourselves, and to become overwhelmed and burned-out. Bored and apathetic. Longing for something different. Feeling stagnant, stuck, or alone.
Have you ever listened to a child’s laughter? The sparkle and vibrancy that emanates from their pure and simple joy? Have you ever laughed freely?
Do you Want that? Do you Believe that is possible for you, especially in a relationship?
It is possible. I truly believe you can feel love, happiness, connection, and belonging DAILY. Imagine that. Just take a moment for yourself to imagine feeling happy right now. Allow yourself to smile, to feel your body lighten, to experience even a brief respite from daily stress.
Is that challenging? Does it bring up other emotions instead?
You don’t have to act like a 3-year-old to find playfulness. You don’t have to change jobs, relationships, or your living situation. (Although let’s be totally honest- sometimes that DOES help- but it’s rarely the first step anyone needs to take.)
First, let’s work on helping you find gratitude, peace, joy, connection, and love in your everyday experience. As you start noticing and embracing the simple pleasures of each moment; as you clear the emotional turmoil, heartbreak, loneliness or pain; as you release the pressures of society, friends, and family you will naturally find more freedom, more happiness, and more joy in your life.
Ready to explore how playfulness and joy can be part of your daily life and relationship?
Would you like to chat for 30 minutes via phone or zoom?
Intimacy can be the way that you touch someone you care about. It can refer to the level of vulnerability you allow in a conversation.
Intimacy includes how you connect, how you feel belonging, how you share and how you grow. Envision simple nuances such as how you interpret or receive someone’s tone of voice. It can include how you know what you want, need, and desire and your ability to communicate.
Would you like to chat for 30 minutes via phone or zoom?
I customize classes for groups all over the world. Whether you want me to facilitate part of a retreat, collaborate in a class series, or do a brief presentation, I can customize something special for you with impact, power, and passion.
