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Soulmates, Synchronicities, and EFT Tapping

Touch Remedies Posted on January 5, 2021 by Touch RemediesJanuary 6, 2021

Guilty Pleasures

I have a really guilty pleasure of pulling oracle cards and watching group tarot readers online. It’s similar to how some people like watching 90 Day Fiancé or Top Chef.  I don’t do it all the time, but I get curious about energies and I listen for synchronicities. After all—we see the world as we are. Whatever I hear is what I am meant to, and perhaps what I need to use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT or tapping) for.  One reader says, “Take what resonates and leave the rest, because it was meant for someone else.” 

Hearing the Message

I liken it to the friend (or parent) who gives you advice over and over and you don’t hear it until you are in a place where you can hear it; It gives me clues to where I am in my own world and own head and what ego-trips, limiting beliefs, or self-talk loops are in my way.  Sometimes I used to flip a coin if I couldn’t decide what I wanted to eat; the coin flip would either make the choice for me, or I’d realize I was disappointed in the outcome and know I actually wanted the other meal.  This is what my guilty pleasure helps me suss out.

Synchronicity

Just after Thanksgiving I was listening to an online reader who said, “You’ve been doing so much work, your soulmate is on the way.” I was really excited and intrigued at the idea. I had been doing the classwork for Learning To Find Love, a specialty relationship Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT or tapping) training. I’m open to the possibility there’s someone I’ll gel with out there, as much as I like being independent and alone.  

The idea also was exciting in an anxiety-producing way.  You know… the type of excitement where you want something but you are scared to have it?  A week later I found myself unable to sleep and thought I’d listen to another tarot reader for the first week in December.  

She pulled the Twin Flame card and said, “You have gone through challenges and upheaval but Cancers are in a new place.  Get ready for your Twin Flame.” 

Cue The Brain’s Resistance

Now I really started to get nervous.  What would that look like to actually have a long-term partner again? If I found one in the U.S would I get “trapped” here forever?  If he was from another country, would I end up moving and leaving my people behind, forever?  Would I lose my freedom, my individuality?  

My EFT Relationship Coaching instructors have said over and over, “The right person makes a relationship easy.” I can have everything I want and I won’t lose myself? My brain doesn’t quite process. Society and experience tell me that’s not true.

Tapping Through It

I did a bunch of EFT (also known as tapping) work with my fellow classmate around the fear of actually finding a life partner that would suit.  I put my EFT to the test, confident and egotistically sure I’d done the work and couldn’t be triggered.  Instead of turning on my music one morning, I decided to listen to a third tarot reader.  She also pulled the soulmate card.  Let me tell you–I’ve never seen this kind of consistency between readers before. 

Then I had to process the next aspect of fear.  What if I decide not to go to Costco and that’s where I was supposed to meet him?  Perhaps I missed him because I was in my head, ungrounded & not paying attention?  Suddenly, the fear of NOT finding him seemed to outweigh the idea that I would.  Then, I got to use EFT to clear that.  Now I’m just chilly cool.  If he shows up he does, if not, no big deal.  Perhaps my soulmate is around and it’s just not the right time yet. Who knows? I certainly don’t claim to.

Letting Go

I had to get rid of leftover BS from past relationships that were preventing me from finding someone or getting into a relationship again.  After all, maybe what I was actually meant to learn was that I needed to do work around my fears of having  a partner and my resistance to it so I can help others.  Perhaps I get to also let go of the idea it has to be ‘now.’ I know my clients would LOVE it if I found someone local and never moved away again. My traveling spirit doesn’t see that happening. Maybe I’ll tap on that next. 

My Question for You

If the genie in the bottle or the psychic or the angel came and told you your future, what would scare and excite you the most?  What emotions (or belief, judgement, resistance, observation, etc.) need to be cleared for your own healing process so you can accept the happiness you deserve? 

Maybe you already know what your biggest fear is.  Or maybe it’s hidden under a layer of self-talk, even the talk seems to be positive. Like “I’m amazing and independent and strong and I don’t need anybody.”  We can hide fear and resistance behind ‘positive’ ideas just as much as behind ‘negative.’

Let’s Chat!

Let’s explore this together!  Set up a Health & Healing Strategy Session to learn how EFT tapping can help you discover and move through your blind spots and stuck spaces. 

With love,

Dawn

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How Do You Project Negative Self-Talk on Others?

Touch Remedies Posted on December 23, 2020 by Touch RemediesDecember 23, 2020

Reflections of the Past

I listened to The Bob Davis Podcasts as I drove down to Red Wing Thursday.  He talked about his experience on the road as a nomad.  

It reminded me of the beauty and the wonder of what it was like to backpack through Europe; how I got to learn to slow down, be present, and shift my own expectations.  His discourse also brought back memories of  how my friends, family, colleagues, and acquaintances projected their ideas and fears onto me.

Whose Self-Talk is This, Anyway?

Dinner before one of the most dangerous nights I experienced

“Isn’t that dangerous?”  “How do you live with only a backpack full of stuff?” (To be fair, I had a backpack full of stuff AND a laptop…except when I ditched it to go hiking and camping.) “What are you going to do if you can’t find a place to stay?”  “Aren’t you lonely?”

Then, there were the straight-up judgments.  “Must be nice to be so rich you can afford to take nine months off.”  “Is this your mid-life crisis?”  “What on earth would you do that for?”  

This is Not My Voice Inside

Their projections gave me a clear view into their own negative self-talk and limiting beliefs.  

I got a lot of suggestions; however, most were irrelevant to the experience I was seeking and the way I love to travel.  

I’ve been talking in my networking group about negative self talk and how impactful it can be;  sometimes we don’t even realize we are doing it.  We often do not realize that what we dislike in others is something we dislike in ourselves.  For example, I get irritated when I feel like people are not following through on promises.  I am clear that when I don’t follow through on something I am overwhelmed with guilt and sometimes shame.  The reflection of what I dislike in myself gets projected onto the other as irritability.  I know what others perceived as laziness and leisure while I was in Europe was often hiding jealousy or their own internal judge telling them that one MUST do more, be busy, and stay “on track” with goals. 

Giving Grace & Space

Giving myself grace and space to write whenever I wanted allowed my book to come forward. When I tried to push to make the book happen, because negative self-talk decided I HAD to get it done before my mom visited, everything halted.  And the voices got louder.

This abandoned copper mine made me think of all the risks others have taken that are more extreme & risky than my own.

I returned to the US and jumped back into American life again (albeit more grounded and calmer.)  Massage Therapy offices were closed in the spring, and I started berating myself for not building my online practice while I was in Europe.  “I had all that downtime and did ‘nothing’ with it.”   I didn’t have the space to work with clients in a safe and private environment, but the voices told me, “You could have been educating people about Emotional Freedom Techniques.  You could have been sharing your personal healing using tapping.”  I had to step back.  The negative self-talk wasn’t mine.  It was the voice of everyone else— you need to do more, make more money, have more stuff, BE more in order to be important/ relevant. 

That’s not what I believe.  Who I am and what I choose in my life is enough.  If others want to judge me for that, that’s their own issue; thus, they get to look within instead of projecting their self-talk.  I am not going to take that on.  

My Question For You

Who gets the brunt of your projections?  How does it feel to you when you are upset at others’ decisions?  Where does your negative self-talk impede your own peace and happiness?

EFT Tapping Can Help Self-Talk

I could share a ton of stories with you about how it helps me.  But I want you to go within first. It doesn’t matter how tapping helps me.  The question is, how would you like it to help you?

I’m here for you.

With love,

Dawn

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